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The Art of Loving

The fiftieth Anniversary Edition of the groundbreaking international bestseller that has shown millions of readers how to achieve rich productive lives by developing their hidden capacities for loveMost people are unable to love on the only level. I went through this book again partly because it has so much to say and partly because I wanted to re read Erich Fromm s instructions on how to meditate I like the way he puts it on pages 101 102 If I am attached to another person because I cannot stand on my own feet he or she may be a lifesaver but the relationship is not one of love Paradoxically the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love Anyone who tries to be alone with himself will discover how difficult it is He will begin to feel restless fidgety or even to sense considerable anxiety He will be prone to rationalize his unwillingness to go on with this practice by thinking that it has no value is just silly that it takes too much time and so on and so on He will also observe that all sorts of thoughts come to mind which take possession of him He will find himself thinking about his plans for later in the day or about some difficulty in a job he has to do or where to go in the evening or about any number of things that fill his mind rather than permitting it to empty itself It would be helpful to practice a few very simple exercises as for instance to sit in a relaxed position neither slouching nor rigid to close one s eyes and to try to see a white screen in front of one s eyes and to try to remove all interfering pictures and thoughts then to try to follow one s breathing not to think about it nor force it but to follow it and in doing so to sense it further to try to have a sense of I I myself as the center of my powers as the creator of my world One should at least do such a concentration exercise every morning for twenty minutes and if possible longer and every evening before going to bed

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That truly matters love that is compounded of maturity self knowledge and courage As with every art love demands practice and concentration as well as genuine insight and understandingIn his classic work The Art of Loving renowned psychoanalyst. Gave up at 13 because it simply became unbearableIf you are a very traditional conservative white middle class cisgender person who is familiar with the bible but still loves Freud you have found your guide If you are any other category of human this book is probably not for youThe constant denial of non binary genders the labelling of love between gay people as a mistake and a failure the endless sexism in describing the roles of men and women I could go on and onI can see a little spark in the text every now and then some hopeful words that can be seen as wise and guiding But if the wrapping of these messages is just one big pile of discrimination not very lovable then I simply cannot take itIf you have this book on your shelves and want to make it useful somehow for a good workout do some push ups every time you encounter the word penetration Lila and Alex short story. X-Rated. renowned psychoanalyst. Gave up at 13 because it simply became unbearableIf you are a very traditional conservative white middle class cisgender person who is familiar with the bible but still loves Freud you have found your guide If you are any other category of human this book is probably not for youThe constant denial of non binary genders the labelling of love between gay people as a mistake and a failure the endless sexism in describing the Burning Attraction roles of men and women I could go on and onI can see a little spark in the text every now and then some hopeful words that can be seen as wise and guiding But if the wrapping of these messages is just one big pile of discrimination not very lovable then I simply cannot take itIf you have this book on your shelves and want to make it useful somehow for a good workout do some push ups every time you encounter the word penetration

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And social philosopher Erich Fromm explores love in all its aspects not only romantic love steeped in false conceptions and lofty expectations but also brotherly love erotic love self love the love of God and the love of parents for their childre. 35 stars Love is an activity not a passive affect it is a standing in not a falling for In the most general way the active character of love can be described by stating that love is primarily giving not receivingThank goodness this book exists Often in contemporary society we misconstrue love as a cure all for all of our problems instead of learning the art of love which reuires great depth and practice we resort to insta love to using others to complete ourselves and to projecting our own insecurities onto the people around us In his book The Art of Loving Fromm deconstructs the shallow image of love so many people possess and he delves into what constitutes true love care responsibility respect and knowledge Another uote that stood out to me and will remain one of my favorites Love is possible only if two persons communicate with each other from the center of their existence hence if each one of them experiences himself from the center of his existence Only in this central experience is human reality only here is aliveness only here is the basis for love Love experienced thus is a constant challenge it is not a resting place but a moving growing working together even whether there is harmony or conflict joy or sadness is secondary to the fundamental fact that two people experience themselves from the essence of their existence that they are one with each other by being one with themselves rather than by fleeing from themselves There is only one proof for the presence of love the depth of the relationship and the aliveness and strength in each person concerned this is the fruit by which love is recognizedWhile this book contains a ton of eye opening insight I did not agree with all of its ideas in particular the concepts it drew from exclusive heterosexual relationships and religion I understand that The Art of Loving came out in 1956 which may explain its arguments that homosexuality suffers from the pain of never resolved separateness or that we must eual love of God with love of man Still these parts of the book clouded the rest of its conviction and radiance which saddened me because Fromm combined theories from history philosophy religion and Overall recommended to those interested in love or psychology While my rating might look a little low I believe that reading this book could change many people s lives for the better


10 thoughts on “The Art of Loving

  1. says:

    My goodness what is this dude smoking?Someone close to me made me aware that this book existed and so out of curiosity I decided to borrow the book from the library and read it It took me 2 days and really I hated every bit of this book for several reasons that I will delineate below But first let me tell you wha

  2. says:

    The Art of Loving Erich FrommThe Art of Loving is a 1956 book by psychoanalyst and social philosopher Erich Fromm which was published as part of the World Perspectives Series edited by Ruth Nanda Anshen In this work Fromm

  3. says:

    I went through this book again partly because it has so much to say and partly because I wanted to re read Erich Fromm's instructions on how to meditate I like the way he puts it on pages 101 102 “If I am attached to another person because I cannot stand on my own feet he or she may be a lifesaver but the relationship i

  4. says:

    If my mate George hadn’t recommended this book there is no chance at all that I would have read it I’ve a strange relationship with LOVE – in that I think it is grossly overrated by our society You could get away with thinking that if you were not ‘in love’ in our society then there is something terribly wrong with you Never mind that the notion of being constantly ‘in love’ – in a world where this is

  5. says:

    This book confirms the idea that reading is a basic tool in the living of a good life a better one indeedReading the Art of love awoke inside me some long dormant craving to approach the subject matter of love in a Tangible and Lucid way as Fromm didIn this book Fromm asserts that love is essential to human flour

  6. says:

    Gave up at 13 because it simply became unbearableIf you are a very traditional conservative white middle class cisgender person who is famili

  7. says:

    One of my favorite books I've read it three times now and i'll probably read it several times in the future I really appreciate what a down to earth way of dealing with his subject matter that Fromm has He recognizes that no book can make you a loving person but he does recognize that by calling our attention to the myriad ways that we misunderstand and deceive ourselves about love we can begin to approach a better unde

  8. says:

    “Love is not only a relationship with a specific person; it is an attitude a guiding of our character that determines the type of relationship of a person has with the world as a whole not with an object or a person”

  9. says:

    35 stars Love is an activity not a passive affect; it is a 'standing in' not a 'falling for' In the most general way the active character of love can be described by stating that love is primarily giving not receivingThank goodness this book exists Often in contemporary society we misconstrue love as a cure all for all

  10. says:

    Have you ever held an idea so closely to the sides of your skull you could never find the words or phrases to articulate it until someone stopped by and presented you with exactly what you had been searching for? Erich Fromm did this for me in the context of mature and fulfilling relationships In the words of a good friend people should rea

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